“Yesterday I shared this photo in my stories knowing I’d get some judgmental messages from it. And I wasn’t wrong. I wanted to prove a point.
This photo for me is perfection. It’s where I’m at my happiest and my heart is 100% content and complete. My girls finding comfort on me and falling asleep. My youngest just finished latching and my oldest using her bottle for comfort.
I knew people would see the bottle and the opinions would start:
“She’s too old for a bottle”
“This is going to mess up her teeth”
My purpose of posting this was to show how often mothers seek any moment to shame another. Rushing to inform another of how their habits are outside of the “normal” and they are failing. They often mask the judgmental comments with:
“I just want to help” or “no offense”.
I stand strong in my mothering, as all of you should. I don’t feel the need to justify what I do. I make choices based off of my children’s individual needs. Do I want them to move forward in their development? Absolutely. Will I rush them when they are not ready? Absolutely not. Will I allow a habit that would cause harm to my child? Again, no.
Not just mothers, but women need to stop this. Stop typecasting each other. Stop shaming others that do things different from you. And stop sharing your opinion when it’s not asked for. Unless you are starting a conversation to inform a mother of the amazing job shes doing, then don’t start it.
You have no idea what a mama and her babies have and are going through. You don’t know what got them there and if what you see is actually an accomplishment and improvement in behavior from where they use to be. So before you typecast….. just don’t. Keep your opinions to yourself and simply move on. I promise, your opinion serves no positive purpose and honestly the mama can do without it.”
