“Love is a choice you make every day” – Gary Chapman
They say that it is hard to love when the novelty of love wears out. It doesn’t only apply to romantic relationships.
When the novelty of having a new baby wears out when the cuteness and eyelash kisses mature into the terrible twos and threes, when there are good days and trying days and when tempers escalate, we remind ourselves to choose to love.
When those whom we love show us their worst sides, love transcends anger. That is when we make that conscious and deliberate choice to love.
Choose to Love: An Open Letter to My Son From Mom
I will not love you perfunctorily. I will not love you because you are my child and I am your mother. I will not love you because it is as natural to me as breathing. I will not love you because loving you is the way it should be.
Instead, I will choose to love you.
I will choose to celebrate your presence in my life every single day. I will love you because you are the very embodiment of my hopes, my dreams, my smiles, my tears, a bit of the best in me and a bit of the worst.
I will love you because you are the palpable truth of every wish that I made on every shooting star. I will choose to love you every day because you are the biggest monumental milestone in my life.
I will choose to love you every single day.
Because during my worst, weakest and darkest moments you give me strength and empower me. I find the strength that I need to raise you, in you. I will choose to love because you make me a better person. You continue making me want to be a little bit better every day. You remind me never to give up on me, on us or on anything. You make me want to try a little harder every day. And because of that, I love you.
I will choose to love you because you gave me the honour of being your mother.
You profoundly altered the entire course of my life with your arrival and eased the empty tedium of my days into a purposeful journey. I will love you endlessly for that indescribable joy that I felt when I first held you in my arms, felt your skin, smelt your hair and whispered to you that I love you.
